He believes in me, the relationship is mutual. 

May God bless you.

-Rhay. 

Men just don’t get it….But you can’t blame them. Blame society for brainwashing them into believing they know what women want, but really don’t. Some guys think they’re extra cool by forcing things to happen, but that is the quickest way to turn a woman off. Men who are impatient NEVER get what they want….NEVER. The fact of the matter is you’re a woman, and you should be treated with class. If you refused him a first time, he should understand that you’re not comfortable and should back off. Men usually cheat out of desperation, and a feeling of low self-esteem. Since weak men usually need a pretty girlfriend out of a need for validation, they feed off any thought of “getting” girls. The slightest resistance they get from any woman offends them…But lets get into what really matters about this story, because it isn’t just about his faults….You knew he had a girlfriend, yet you still decided to go to his house anyway and stay the night. So he isn’t totally the blame, you have your hands dirty as well.

You can’t totally write off a guy that you yourself lead on. His advances would stop if you showed you weren’t interested. The fact that you knew of his current relationship and still continued to lead him on…Says a lot about your character. 

May God bless you.

-Rhay. 

“she cheated on me” = Final goodbyes.. No questions asked. Go find another girl, that is worth your effort.

NEVER let any woman disrespect you, or they will always run over your emotions. Stand up for yourself, you deserve a better woman than that.

May God bless you.

-Rhay. 

One of the biggest mistakes men make, is that they start off the game wrong. When you first meet a girl, you can either enter three positions;

1. Friend *Once you get into that spot, its hard to get out of it.
2. Potential lover *You start as a friend, then quickly escalate* 
3. Acquaintance * You exist, only when she wants you to*

If you’ve been her friend for years and never made a move on her, its hard to break that cycle. Its first to start off with friendly rapport, so she drops her defensives and feels comfortable with you…But its up to you to quickly escalate the situation so she knows that isn’t all you want out of the relationship. Either its by grabbing her hand, and leading her. Or creating sexual tension between you two…But YOU have to escalate the situation because she won’t. Women have been socially programmed to feel they have to be seduced in a certain way, but it isn’t how most guys are doing it. Its best to remain indirect with your approach, and quickly escalate it so she feels that she is with a man that she KNOWS will lead her to what she wants. Women don’t lead men…..Men lead women. They need you to be this way, I promise you. You must be dominant in every way possible, but that is only after you have established that you aren’t there to be her best friend, or her sympathetic ear. A woman will string a guy that likes her along for YEARS, without even KISSING him…Because she knows that he is too scared to make a move, but his company has benefits. 

This guy will sit there for HOURS  listening to her problems on the phone, when his only ambition with her is to have sex with her. Sounds like a HORRIBLE plan right? Then don’t get caught into that web you can’t get out of…Now that doesn’t mean that guys who wait around don’t get eventually rewarded…But you know how the old saying goes.. Nice guys, finish last… If you want her, you must show her indirectly that you want to be with her.  Just don’t tell her that you want to be more than friends, show her with your actions. That is the only way to get through.

Good luck.
God Bless.

-Rhay. 

A bully only exists as much as you allow him/her to. You give them power, not themselves. If something makes you feel negative, then that means you formed it out of an insecure standpoint in your own mind. You have to understand that people who are constantly trying to push people around, force their opinions on other people, or make others feel bad…usually feel that way about themselves. They have very low self-esteem, so the responses that they get from “picking” on other people, is proof to them that their existence means something. The very act of somebody being emotionally affected by their actions, is proof that they’re alive.

So how do you destroy a bully without moving a finger?



 Sounds hard but its very simple, you stop giving them strong reactions. The stronger reactions that you give them to their bullying, the stronger manipulation they have over you. By not acting as if they even exist, shows that you are the superior person. A king or queen isn’t affected by a peasant throwing rocks at the throne.  Once you show them that their actions mean nothing to you, the bullying will cease to be in existence. Do this…..Don’t look them in the eye, look past them. Don’t talk to them, meet their words with silence. The less you say around people, the more intimidating you become. Those who talk too much, usually talk out of nerve or out of approval. Insecure people show their weakness through small gestures and mannerisms..The way they react to other people is an example. Others would be the way they walk,talk, and even something as small as the inability to make eye contact. There is a difference between not wanting to look at someone, and not being able to. Trust me, your enemy has a weakness…That is why they are resorting to such menial forms of social validation like bullying. Find this weakness, and pull them by the teeth. Destroy their confidence, by showing them you don’t get mad easily…Nothing they do  in their world, affects yours. 

May God bless you.

-Rhay.