The AntiHeroes

I need your advice, I havent had sex in 2 years, Im 20 years old, Im not ugly or lame I just have been having problems with my confidence. Ive started talking to several different girls during this 2 years but I havent been able to actually close the deal with any of them. What should I do?

Thu, 23 May 2013 20:38:00 -0400

Sex is overrated……You only want it because you believe that its hard to get. Men who do have a lot of women in their life, aren’t desperate for sex. In fact after a while it tends to get redundant. Pussy is only important to the man who doesn’t get enough of it. Women aren’t the most important thing you should be worrying about. You should be concerned about improving the way you feel about yourself first. You should NEVER get down about yourself because you’re not getting girls. Women can sense this neediness and they will automatically be turned off by you. You must display a certain amount of nonchalance about the whole situation to begin with. By not needing a relationship to feel good about yourself, you will attract women. Think of the concept of a magnet. A magnet doesn’t have to go outside itself to get what it wants. It has everything it needs in its core, so what it desires *metal* comes to it. Its about improving internally, to get what you want externally. If its sex that is the motivation to better yourself, fine….

But sex is only one channel of attraction…and tends to be the weakest if it comes out of desperation. You don’t need sex….You don’t need anything. Getting women doesn’t fill the voids in your life…..You fill the voids in your life, and women come to you. That is how it works. Do it for yourself, and you will see that is true.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

What does it mean when a girl says she needs space?

Thu, 23 May 2013 20:29:05 -0400

It means that you’ve failed at attracting her *or keeping her attention* ….and another man that does know how to treat her, has taken your place.

Don’t get too down on yourself though. Use that jealous energy positively to find another girl. There are plenty out there.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

Sasuke Hokage? What are your thoughts on the "plot twist".

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:59:00 -0400

Naruto has been getting horrible lately…That is pretty much all I have to say. A LOT of plot holes have been getting covered by temporary hype.

1. Obito= Tobi.
2. The fail of the Ten Tails.
3. Edo-Kages
4. Madara being the worst villain……ever.. he doesn’t even do shit.
5. Minato using Chakra mode…Unexplained, and with no training.
6. Sasuke having a sudden change of heart…after over 100 chapters of wanting to destroy the village to avenge his brother…even after a speech by Itachi HIMSELF , telling him that was the wrong path….Now hashirama gives him one little conversation..Now he wants to change? Total B.S.

Not to mention the dump of characters….Where the hell is Kabuto and anko….Are they really still in that cave??? Yamato where the fuck is Yamato…Is he really still in that cave???? Kishi has a thing for dumping useless characters in caves and leaving them there.

Its all been going downhill for Naruto…..

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

Girls seem to only like guys that are strong w/ cars. I'm frail without a whip, how do I go about this harsh reality?

Thu, 23 May 2013 10:14:12 -0400

Women are more concerned by the way you behave. A man who is poor but comfortable with himself…will get more girls than a guy who has everything, but is insecure and always showing off. The value of a man is interpreted in many ways, but an alpha male has always strong minded. There was a survey in 1903 which asked women what they wanted most in a man…and guess what they said…?

“Strength of character”

So what does that mean? Strength of character? Its not about wealth, at all. Its courage, confidence, patience, and ambition. Now wealth can be apart of that, and it can create status but its only one channel of status and if used incorrectly it can even be a weakness. So I don’t care what your problem is….You don’t have a car, no muscles…whatever. It doesn’t matter until you believe it does. Something isn’t your weakness until you think it is. Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t be improving yourself, but never make the mistake of believing what you have materially defines your success in reality.

This is a topic I addressed in my first book.
Chapter III. Lyceum.

God Bless.

-Rhay.

Hey rhay, so there's this girl I foolishly admire from a different school, blasian, that I only see every now and then after school. I've recently hung out with white people(who are only my acquaintances) and they don't condone me admiring this girl! They refer to her as a 'snunkie' along with her black friends. I tried to endure their shit butsenseless thoughts aggravates me. I know it is silly to deny attraction based on their race and skin color, but their opinions makes my think twice. Help!

Thu, 23 May 2013 09:57:00 -0400

Its not about what other people think, what is more important is the way you feel. If you think she is awesome, then that should be the reason you pursue her. I can’t tell you how many men ruin what could have been great relationships, because they let their friends “disapproval” change the way they FEEL about another person. Personally I never got why race and ethnicity is such a big deal. I’m more concerned about the way my lady behaves than her skin tone. In the black culture the concept of “Light skin vs. Dark skin” has always been played up. As if light skin automatically meant “beautiful”, and dark skin automatically symbolized what is “undesirable”. Which is blatantly untrue, because I know we all know women who are equally unattractive from both ends of the spectrum See this is the type of bullshit that society plays into and it just ruins any chance of happiness, because it makes people insecure over the littlest things. One thing I learned early on is the more women you get, the higher your standards are…But those standards don’t necessarily base themselves on looks alone. That is why you see super hot girls, with guys who aren’t all that good looking. Or you see stereotypical ”hot” guys with girls who don’t seem to be all that attractive. That is because beauty is an arbitrary thing, its a perception…and since perception is stronger than reality is, what we perceive to be beautiful….is beautiful. That doesn’t make it any less beautiful because other people say it isn’t. Its beautiful because we believe it is. you understand? So Listen….I don’t care what race a girl is, If you make each other happy then its irrelevant.

I also think its time to start moving into a new crowd of friends, or are less simple minded and shallow. They will never be happy with themselves, because their standards are built on something as superficial as skin tone. How foolish does it sound to basis your attraction to somebody off something as irrelevant as skin color? It even sounds illogical. You seem like a man with a good mind on his shoulders…I know you will make the right decision.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

Any advice on how I could ask a guy out? I'm female btw

Wed, 22 May 2013 12:58:41 -0400

Men love to be in control. If you can boost his ego, and give him awesome emotions he will be hooked on you. *I know this not because I ask men out…but because I am a guy myself and I know what works and what doesn’t lol* Anyway, you have to make him feel as if he is conquering you, and he is doing the seduction and you’re falling for it. Men can’t resit the thought of a girl liking them…Because they view the world differently from women. To a man, he is having a difficult time getting the attention of ANY girl. Unless he is your stereotypical ”hot” guy, and even then if you know how to appeal to his emotions then you will have his attention..Forever. If you can make a guy feel self-esteem, he will fall under your spell. The trick is after you do this, you give him all these awesome emotions first….You want to take them away. You want to play hard to get. I personally love women who play hard to get. It turns me on.

When I’m presented with a challenge, that makes me want the girl even more. Its the thought of obtaining something hard to get that makes people want things of quality. Its not even the sex per-se…Because lust is only one form of attraction, and its temporary. Which is why most of the time guys will lust after a girl, then lose interest after they have sex…so what does that say? That says the desire to gain self-esteem is stronger than the desire for sex. If you can put into his mind that you are interested and that he is presented with a challenge, then hold back…He won’t be able to keep away from you…because you’re sending mixed signals. Your looks, your words say one thing…But your body language says another. It is a challenge to figure out.

God bless.

-Rhay.

Hey Rhay, one of my closest friends is still in love with her ex even though its been 2-3 years since their relationship ensued. She is completely and utterly still in love with him. She explains to me how she uses other men as an emotional outlet, and how she provides sex in return. She tells me about how she envisions his face while having sex, and how making (whomever her emotional outlet is at the time) smile brings back memories of him. I don't know how to help her anymore.

Wed, 22 May 2013 12:46:27 -0400

No one should subject themselves to an abusive relationship. I believe relationships should be cherished…and should only be made between two people who have high self-esteem. If one person feels horrible, and the other feels the opposite then it will never work out. Some men will make a woman feel so low, that she stays with him because that abuse to her is better than pain of being alone. He has done such a good job brainwashing her, that she will even abuse herself in order to get back at him if he isn’t doing it for her. It is a horrible situation…Horrible. There are some real scumbags out there who only get women in order to hurt them, not show them a good time. What your friend has to understand is that its time to move on. Maybe she will need some professional help, which isn’t something she should be embarrassed by. Sometimes we all need help. If she has gotten to this point, then there is pretty much nothing you can say that will change her. She has to experience this part of her life for herself. Hopefully she gets to a psychiatrist before she does something really dangerous and sleeps with the wrong guy. Honestly, I would tell her she shouldn’t be so hard on herself. If he wanted to be in her life, then he would show her with his actions. You probably already conveyed this to her, and its solid advice. Maybe he doesn’t want her, and the attraction is only one way…and that is fine…But there has to be closure and he has to tell her that the feelings that they once shared are over.

That is the least he can do for her, and her heart. I don’t understand how someone can be so selfish.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

what advice do you have for someone who likes a certain style but people criticize him for dressing too similar to a certain famous person? sorry if this sounds weak minded but i look up to your advice on the blog bruh

Wed, 22 May 2013 12:28:32 -0400

Those who criticize you, hold a sense of admiration for you. Never forget that… The opposite of attraction isn’t hate, its indifference. If they didn’t care, they wouldn’t go through great lengths to be offended or try to put you down. Those people who are always quick to “clown” other people, or quick to defend themselves don’t have any self-esteem. To make up for their lack of whatever in their life, for instance;

1. Their small dick.
2. No money.
3. No luck.

They tend to gravitate to people who they feel have what they lack. If that person rejects them, then that love turns into hatred. Intense hatred. That is how human beings work, we want what we feel we’re missing in other people. That is the basis of desire, so in essence attraction is the desire for self-esteem. There is no such thing as looking like a fool, most people are too afraid of being rejected so they try to blend in to avoid animosity. Men like me say fuck all that, we do what we want to do…because we’re not looking for approval. Rather someone gets offended or not, that isn’t going to stir me away from my goal.

We’re all inspired by each other in someway or another. Tabula Rasa which means “blank slate”. We are born to mimic other people and use them as inspiration. There is nothing wrong with being influenced, but the point of it all is to move into a new direction of your own. When you idolize another man too much, in a way you disrespect yourself because you let his opinions dictate yours. Never get too caught up, trying too hard to be like another man…Because you have potential yourself to make your own style. I know you do. Use that confidence and be comfortable with yourself…and remember when someone stands out for whatever circumstance, they will be met with resistance from the people that envy them. Be careful.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

How did you become rich? and at what age?

Wed, 22 May 2013 12:14:42 -0400

I’m not rich….I just don’t let my lack of money stop me from getting what I want. That is the difference between a man who obtains his aspirations and one who doesn’t.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

you believe in god right? im assuming the God of Christianity... why?

Tue, 21 May 2013 23:02:40 -0400

He believes in me, the relationship is mutual.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

The guy has a girlfriend (distance relationship) but he keeps chasing me. Yesterday, we went out and suddenly, he wanted to kiss me but I refused. He tried 3-4x, still nothing. Then he said loudly "what are you doing to meeee (breathing...)". I had to overslept in his house because I live far away. NOTHING happened, he tried many times and he said he really likes me and that he doesn't like his RS since it makes no sense. I asked him if he loves her and he said not really. Erm???? Help:)

Tue, 21 May 2013 21:33:41 -0400

Men just don’t get it….But you can’t blame them. Blame society for brainwashing them into believing they know what women want, but really don’t. Some guys think they’re extra cool by forcing things to happen, but that is the quickest way to turn a woman off. Men who are impatient NEVER get what they want….NEVER. The fact of the matter is you’re a woman, and you should be treated with class. If you refused him a first time, he should understand that you’re not comfortable and should back off. Men usually cheat out of desperation, and a feeling of low self-esteem. Since weak men usually need a pretty girlfriend out of a need for validation, they feed off any thought of “getting” girls. The slightest resistance they get from any woman offends them…But lets get into what really matters about this story, because it isn’t just about his faults….You knew he had a girlfriend, yet you still decided to go to his house anyway and stay the night. So he isn’t totally the blame, you have your hands dirty as well.

You can’t totally write off a guy that you yourself lead on. His advances would stop if you showed you weren’t interested. The fact that you knew of his current relationship and still continued to lead him on…Says a lot about your character.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

hey rhay i know you get so many ask. but i need your help. i was with my ex girlfriend for 2 years and we broke up last summer. she cheated on me because she liked this guy from her school. she barely talk to him now. she's still in love with me and i'm still in love with her. she means everything to me. i can't let go. we still talk on the phone, text, and skyping. should i ask her back out? btw, we have long distance relationship. she lives in ny and i live in nj. i go there once in 2 weeks.

Tue, 21 May 2013 21:20:00 -0400

“she cheated on me” = Final goodbyes.. No questions asked. Go find another girl, that is worth your effort.

NEVER let any woman disrespect you, or they will always run over your emotions. Stand up for yourself, you deserve a better woman than that.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

What's up Rhay? I'm in sort of a dilemma...I want to make one of my good, close friends my girlfriend. How would you suggest I go about doing that?

Tue, 21 May 2013 21:11:49 -0400

One of the biggest mistakes men make, is that they start off the game wrong. When you first meet a girl, you can either enter three positions;

1. Friend *Once you get into that spot, its hard to get out of it.
2. Potential lover *You start as a friend, then quickly escalate*
3. Acquaintance * You exist, only when she wants you to*

If you’ve been her friend for years and never made a move on her, its hard to break that cycle. Its first to start off with friendly rapport, so she drops her defensives and feels comfortable with you…But its up to you to quickly escalate the situation so she knows that isn’t all you want out of the relationship. Either its by grabbing her hand, and leading her. Or creating sexual tension between you two…But YOU have to escalate the situation because she won’t. Women have been socially programmed to feel they have to be seduced in a certain way, but it isn’t how most guys are doing it. Its best to remain indirect with your approach, and quickly escalate it so she feels that she is with a man that she KNOWS will lead her to what she wants. Women don’t lead men…..Men lead women. They need you to be this way, I promise you. You must be dominant in every way possible, but that is only after you have established that you aren’t there to be her best friend, or her sympathetic ear. A woman will string a guy that likes her along for YEARS, without even KISSING him…Because she knows that he is too scared to make a move, but his company has benefits.

This guy will sit there for HOURS listening to her problems on the phone, when his only ambition with her is to have sex with her. Sounds like a HORRIBLE plan right? Then don’t get caught into that web you can’t get out of…Now that doesn’t mean that guys who wait around don’t get eventually rewarded…But you know how the old saying goes.. Nice guys, finish last… If you want her, you must show her indirectly that you want to be with her. Just don’t tell her that you want to be more than friends, show her with your actions. That is the only way to get through.

Good luck.
God Bless.

-Rhay.

New Pickup;14k Gold Ray Ban Aviators.-Rhay.

Sun, 19 May 2013 14:36:38 -0400

New Pickup;

14k Gold Ray Ban Aviators.

-Rhay.

Past couple. -Rhay.

Tue, 14 May 2013 14:01:37 -0400

Past couple.

-Rhay.

Picked up some new Ties. -Rhay.

Mon, 13 May 2013 00:23:47 -0400

Picked up some new Ties.

-Rhay.

What would you do to a bully?

Tue, 07 May 2013 09:44:00 -0400

A bully only exists as much as you allow him/her to. You give them power, not themselves. If something makes you feel negative, then that means you formed it out of an insecure standpoint in your own mind. You have to understand that people who are constantly trying to push people around, force their opinions on other people, or make others feel bad…usually feel that way about themselves. They have very low self-esteem, so the responses that they get from “picking” on other people, is proof to them that their existence means something. The very act of somebody being emotionally affected by their actions, is proof that they’re alive.

So how do you destroy a bully without moving a finger?

Sounds hard but its very simple, you stop giving them strong reactions. The stronger reactions that you give them to their bullying, the stronger manipulation they have over you. By not acting as if they even exist, shows that you are the superior person. A king or queen isn’t affected by a peasant throwing rocks at the throne. Once you show them that their actions mean nothing to you, the bullying will cease to be in existence. Do this…..Don’t look them in the eye, look past them. Don’t talk to them, meet their words with silence. The less you say around people, the more intimidating you become. Those who talk too much, usually talk out of nerve or out of approval. Insecure people show their weakness through small gestures and mannerisms..The way they react to other people is an example. Others would be the way they walk,talk, and even something as small as the inability to make eye contact. There is a difference between not wanting to look at someone, and not being able to. Trust me, your enemy has a weakness…That is why they are resorting to such menial forms of social validation like bullying. Find this weakness, and pull them by the teeth. Destroy their confidence, by showing them you don’t get mad easily…Nothing they do in their world, affects yours.

May God bless you.

-Rhay.

Been Fresh Prince. -Rhay.

Sat, 04 May 2013 15:17:47 -0400

Been Fresh Prince.

-Rhay.

Got these pants hemmed. They’re perfect. -Rhay.

Fri, 03 May 2013 20:23:56 -0400

Got these pants hemmed. They’re perfect.

-Rhay.

This morning. -Rhay.

Fri, 03 May 2013 11:33:25 -0400

This morning.

-Rhay.